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So it's Mother's Day, and... So what? How do you tell a kid it's Father's Day when his or her father isn't even around?... and I mean EVER. How do you even fathom you have the right to celebrate Mother's Day when Father's Day is an empty gyp in a child's life, all the while they're watching other kids make out cards for someone who IS there?

I gave up Mother's Day when my kids didn't have a dad for Father's Day. I told them it wasn't important to give me anything. Why? You say... What about all the kids who never got the chance to even meet their fathers or mothers be it because they died, left or simply because they were there to conceive and nothing else?

Mother's/Father's Day is torture for children who grow up in a non-conventional family, therefore, I decided it was not important in my life. I had no one to pay for a gift in my kids' name so even if they were to make something simple at school, I had to give them the money to get the supplies to give to ME. How much fun is that? Besides, teachers told them not to tell their moms they were getting them something. How were my kids supposed to do that - white magic perhaps? I mean, doesn't anyone think of this when you have single parents, divorced parents, dead parents, gay parents, no parents...

It's not about resentment, believe me, it's about the kids - not everyone has a full-fledged family. So, no, I'm not mad that I DIDN'T get a Mother's Day... I'm pissed MY KIDS didn't get one. I'm pissed society is so inconsiderate, it doesn't think about the people that are just... well, different. I'm pissed that someone gypped my kids of Father's Day AND Mother's Day because he was an immature idiot, and mad at myself because I didn't think of that ahead of time.

Then again, my parents were together and that's a whole different story... My father gave me money once in second grade to get my mother a gift at school and I bought her the biggest (and yes, tackiest) ring I found because I thought it was better just because it was big, and big means more to a kid. All I got back was getting yelled at (ON MOTHER'S DAY) because I bought something my mother would never wear because it was ugly. I was seven. I WAS SEVEN. I bought it (with my father's money) with all my heart; I was so excited and thought I was doing a good thing, but that was my father... you were seven but HAD to know your mom didn't wear costume jewelry especially that big ass tacky kind with all that shiny crap... I guess that's why I don't like diamonds (same shit to me) I guess that's where my dislike for these stupid holidays (and perhaps even shiny stuff) started. You may regard this as rancorous, but truly, it's not that. I find no sense in these pointless socially forced celebrations, be it because your father is missing, your father is home (and is a ROYAL pain in the toosh) or because your mother only wears the real thing.

So, Happy Mother's Day (if you're lucky enough to have a "normal" family)  I only really want to make people aware of people's different situations....

Sorry, I hope I didn't ruin it for you like they (society and its rules) ruined it for my children and me