ITS NOT THE PUBLIC SCHOOL SYSTEM... THE SOLUTION IS WITHIN US AS PARENTS

February 28, 2009 | chicago, Illinois | Vetting explained

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Have you ever noticed that in the most deprived nieborhoods or schools, there is always a success story, a child that succeeds despite the odds. The school supplies the information and knowledge, just like a library makes available thousand of books on thousands of topics... Its up to us as parents to Instill the drive in our children to go after it . You can put your child in the best of schools and supply a million dollars to go with him or her and that child can still fail. In many of of our black neiborhoods our children have to fight harder to maintain a since of purpose for the pursuit of knowledge, to offset the peer pressure of the many students who may not take the pursuit of knowledge seriously . Our children will automatically adapt to the social environment of thier peers to fit in and feel accepted, if the support at home is not stronger. In certain neiborhoods, black or white, the accepted culture can motivate a child to achieve scholastically or achieve acceptance by being popular with the in crowd, that may be the best gang member who gets all the girls. The main reason my son has been successful was not the school ,it was me who supported him as he resisted the status quo to achieve scholastic acceptance. which was not an easy thing to do. Once I stepped up to the plate as a concerned parent, the only thing I needed was the school to supply the curriculum I'm a single dad, I've been with my son since before birth. That's him and his self portrait. I talked to him while he was still in his mothers womb. Seconds after birth he recognized my voice opened his eyes and smiled at me while reaching out. I raised my son as a single father since he was three. That's him next to the D.N.A. model we worked on together. That's also him at three years old at the end of the video. " Please daddy don't leave ". VISIT scorpi2000 at YOUTUBE http://www.myspace.com/scorpi2000radicalroots This song was inspired by him. WHILE LEAVING FOR WORK MY SON SAID CRYING PLEASE DADDY DON'T LEAVE, STAY WITH ME. I PROCEEDED TO WORK THAT DAY WITH TEARS IN MY EYES, AND AFTERWARD TOOK MANY DAYS OFF TO GIVE HIM WHAT ALL OF OUR CHILDREN NEED. HE GREW UP INFLUENCED BY THE MANY SONGS I WROTE WHICH HELPED TO SHIELD HIM FROM THE EFFECTS OF THE GANGSTER RAP CULTURE go to this link and listen to the song "Think about it " its reflective of some of the songs I wrote for him. www.myspace.com/scorpi2000radicalroots UNITED SCHOLASTIC STUDENT MOTIVATIONAL PROGRAM was also inspired by him and my experience with the public school system. .... visit Barrack Obama.comSCORPI2000 Possible Solutions to failing public shools I live in the city, an African American neighborhood, where their is a lack of fathers present to support and guide their children. THE DECLINE OF THE TRADITIONAL BLACK FAMILY This is not just a problem that is all the fault of black fathers . The divorce rate, The laws that support woman's rights over mens rights.when it comes to children, and who has to pay child support. the government has traditionally supported mothers in thier quest to raise the children. Forcing many fathers out of the picture only to be financial providers. Many of those black fathers were discriminated out of a job. or the job owners moved to the suburbs. Many women changed thier perspective about allowing the man to be the man of the house ., making the easier choice of divorce, child support, and a new boy friend and public aid. As you can see thier are alot of cause and effect issues that plague our black families and communities. This battle between who is going to be the leading influence in a child's life has seriously effected our black families and have manifested in what we see today. One of our biggest mispeceptions is that its the school alone that will make our chidlren successful. I sacrificed jobs and money to personally walk my son thru his formative years. I really felt all alone, mostly mothers and their children. Many without fathers present in their lives. I sacrificed also dating because I felt it would distract me from my double duties. His mother was not available. Many mothers overwhelmed me with their request for me to be there for their children and be a good influence for their sons too. Where were their fathers ? Some working, some not there. I reluctantly turned the mothers down because, they were not willing to make the same sacrifices. They were not aware of the some of the issues and beliefs I was instilling in my son that were absent in their lives. Not only did I not have time or extra to sacrifice ,but trying to combine the up bringing of my child, as a single father and help with their children, while working a full time job, would have been too much for me to handle . Because he was an only child I took on the roll of being father, mother, brother, and friend. I taught him computers before kindergarten, and stayed close to him all along the way as he maintained an A average. He graduated from grammar school Valedictorian 3.9 average. I was so proud of him and glad I made the sacrifice. He's a junior in high school now, and so far we're beating the odds.......Now college ,,,,some how I'm going to pull that off too. My son is now a senior in high school, and recently achieved a 26 on his A.C.T. I've recently become unemployed, and have been faced with one of the worst years, 2008, in my life . My mother who has helped support my efforts has been plagued with serious illnesses and put me in a position that has compromised several jobs.in my efforts to help her. I'm hoping that with grants and other help we can together make a way for him to get a busness degree. My struggle as a single Black father continues, my successes are due to the sacrifices that I and others have made, and the public programs that our society has offered. Without the equal opportunity , discrimination, International bachelorate, and other .programs that have helped to even the playing fields, it may have been alot harder or impossible to make it this far. BLACK IN AMERICA ....THE STRUGGLE CONTINUES Thanks SCORPI2000

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