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President Obama has a lot to say about Afghanistan, but there are things I am sure that he won’t say

War is not a game and Americans don't get to decide who wins. Sometimes you have a situation where no one wins. That's Afghanistan -- the virtual no win. If Americans stay, Americans will die. This fact lies in in geography and monopoly. No one knows that turf like the Afghan people and far too many distrust America’s  intentions. It is a recipe for defeat. Ask the Russians. With all their military muscle, they lost. The Russians died and so did Afghan fighters, but the Afghans did overcome the occupier.

There is one constancy,

out of the entire history in that country, it’s that the women have been treated like human waste. It is hard to isolate a time when they were not traded, trafficked, raped, mutilated and killed. In some way, the mandated burqa made their lives more easily disposable; you can't even see the victim. Not only are they nameless, they're faceless. It would be honorable to say that this war was a fight to defend their rights. It was a fight to liberate the people from a faulty, callous regime who ruled by the bullet and not by human rights. It would be honorable if we could say that we helped the people there and instituted a system of rules and laws where tribes cannot trade human beings for a goat or a slave. However we cannot say this because the United States government  placed Hamid Karzai there. We put an idiot there that obviously cannot run a country and built a a brutal torture camp in order to hide the fact that he can’t.

It's been years and Karzai is still begging for someone to tell him what to do and how to do it. That's what happens when one group of losers is replaced by another loser. That’s what happens when you try to convince people that you have a leader, when what you really have is a puppet.

When a country becomes run by an outside nation, the outside nation has to pay for it, usually with two types of currency- money and lives. Even with this there is no guarantee.

The Afghan people have gone from bad to worse. The Taliban decimated the spirit of the people and fear froze them into submission. American troops came, including some without the spirit of freedom. More like payback, and immediately began working on the principle that every Afghan is a terrorist unless he or she can prove otherwise. here at home, we put on blinders and pretended not to see this point.

What President Obama knows, and should just say is, “I inherited a Catch 22. I didn’t plan it, I didn’t orchestrate it, I inherited all of this. Even with all my experts and strategic advice, there is n o easy way out of this mess”

More troops mean more death, defeat and a huge debt for for people here. A pullout means  the return of the Taliban, a bunch of thugs whose testosterone supply is almost equal to their poppy seeds and so there is no real prospect for a just and stable society. Despite the well organized campaign to popularize the idea that the foreign troops are neutral and there to fight for a free and democratic Afghanistan, most of the Afghans aren’t buying it and a huge amount of civilian casualties does not build friendship or trust.

War is never neutral and every nation involved in one, wants something for itself. What is taken usually leaves very little dignity to the people of these nations especially the most vulnerable-  women   There is a whole lot of things I wish I were, there is one thing I am definitely glad I am not- an woman in Afghanistan