Like everyone else with a unique name, I can't imagine one
worse than my own. My full name on my birth certificate is Open
Weaver. My married name is Open Weaver Banks. I have a hard time
using my credit cards for personal items because clerks will accuse
me of using a business card. I have problems with airline tickets
and any type of registration where people think that my name must
be a typo and I become an "Owen." I cannot tell my name to someone
without having to explain it. Some days it is exhausting and I
can't even disguise the annoyance in my voice. Even my husband says
he tires of explaining it to colleagues every time he mentions my
name in conversation.
This is now, when it is really just an inconvenience.
Childhood was painful. I still give my mother a hard time about the
name choice and she tries to explain that she was young, she liked
how it sounded, it was 1970, and various other reasons. Then she
asks why I don't change it if I hate it so much. I actually tried
going by another name for a year and I realized that as much as I
truly hate my name, it is embedded in me and so much a part of my
experience. I felt like I was keeping a dark secret and people
couldn't truly know me if they didn't know that part of me. So I
went back to "Open."
The point I think people need to realize when they are naming
their children is that unique is wonderful, but it can also be a
burden when it crosses a line and subjects children to ridicule or
makes getting through the average day difficult because of the
number of times you have to explain it or spell it. And parents
cannot predict their children's personalities or futures. So while
"Open" might have been great if I had grown up to be an artist and
moved in more "open-minded" circles, it is not so great for a 37
year old attorney who sometimes would just like to be taken
seriously when I introduce myself, rather than have to explain for
the umpteenth time "My mother just liked the way it sounded."
In response to assignment:
Do you have a unique name?